Instead, just before the last commercial break, one character stated that the women who were committed to celibacy were not having relationship issues because of sex, but because they were flawed. He continued to say that if oneof the women wanted her boyfriend to marry her, then she should just ask him instead of waiting for him to ask. And, that's when I heard the sound of car brakes in my head...SCREEEEEEECH! Hold on just one cotton-picking minute! A woman should ask what? That is a lie from the pits of hell. This was the part that my best friend wanted to get my reaction about. And she asked me to address it here, so I am. Let me say this loud and clear, NO WOMAN HAS ANY BUSINESS ASKING A MAN TO MARRY HER! That is most certainly not what God intended. The Bible says the HE who finds a WIFE finds a good thing (Proverbs 18:22). I am all for empowerment and enrichment. I believe that women can have big dreams and achieve goals just as well as men, but there are some circumstances of life in which we, women, need to know how to stay in our own lane. This is one of them. God designed the household, so that the man could lead. Now, if he is leading you down a path that is clearly not Godly, then your first allegiance is to God, but if he is Godly, let him lead.
One of the other shows I watch is Dancing with the Stars. In the episode last night, one of the female professional dancers said that the greatest thing about her partner was that he had learned how to lead her. Once, he was able to do that, she was able to dance more freely and they scored higher scores and did more challenging dances, and now they are in the finals. It is the same thing in life. One of the lessons that I learned from my marriage is that there is a natural order of things. if you treat a man like a man, he will act like a man. If you treat a man like a baby, he will act like a baby. On the radio ths morning, a question was posed to listeners about whether or not men look for women who have the same attributes as their mothers. One caller said that men do want the good attributes from their mothers, but they do not need another mother. I know that society might cast you as a spinster if you are single for too long. I know that you think he is just afraid to ask and he needs a little push. Resist that urge. Do you really want to marry someone who felt pressured into marrying you? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with a man who thought it was cool that you asked him for his hand in marriage? I am sorry, but I am royalty and I don't remember any of the princesses in the fairytales getting down on one knee. What are we going to do next start buying our own engagement rings?
I am saying all of this out of love. I don't write anything in this blog that is not a reminder or a checkpoint for myself. Yes, we are strong. Yes, we are invincible. Yes, we are women. Nevertheless, God created specific roles for mankind, and one of his mandates for relationships is that if you are equally yoked with a Godly man, you should let him lead (See Ephesians). If you are single, let God lead (See the Bible) . Remember that obedience is better than sacrifice (1 Samuel 15:22). Living and loving God's way will lead to relationships beyond anything you can imagine. God's way involves abstinence for the singles and submission for married (men & women, see Ephesians). So, know your role and let him lead, so you can dance freely. Ms. EV