Pray While You’re Prey Weekly Devotions for Singles
Bad Boys, Bad Girls, Whatcha Gonna Do?
“Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men, from men whose words are perverse, who have left the straight paths to walk in dark ways, who delight in doing wrong and rejoice in the perverseness of evil, whose paths are crooked and who are devious in their ways.”
Quote from Pray While You’re Prey:
“They say that love is blind, but if love is blind, then LUST is a blind, mentally-challenged, deaf mute…”
Why do good girls love bad boys? And, for that matter, why to good guys want bad girls? What is so attractive about the person that you know means nothing, but harm? I would submit that good girls and good guys do not love bad boys and girls, but they sure do lust after them. Let’s be real, the bad ones are sexy. I am not talking about those who are a threat to your well-being; those people should be avoided at all costs. I am referring to the ones who are aloof, commitment-phobic, risk-takers; the ones who only care about what you can do for them, never giving a thought to what they can do to enhance your life.
At one point, about thirteen years ago, after a series of failed attempts at relationships, I tried to figure out where I was going wrong. So, I made a list of all the guys that I had dated and looked for their similarities. Once I had that list, I analyzed it to figure out what my red flags should be for my next suitor. It included things like: baby boys or only children, belongs to or aspires to belong to a fraternity, birthday in the winter months. It was a very scientific list. I thought if I could avoid those things, I would be on my way to a future of happiness. But, it wasn’t very long before I found myself dating the same exact type of guy again because he was someone to whom I was physically attracted. And, he had that bad boy quality that was so enticing. You know, when you are attracted to someone because they have an “I don’t care” attitude, you should probably take the hint and run very far away. So, how do we avoid getting caught in this trap?
Rather than looking through the blinded eyes and deafened ears of lust; we need to seek out wisdom from God. God’s wisdom can show us the obvious that we are overlooking and it can show us layers of someone’s personality that are hidden until after you fall in love. How do we get this wisdom? Seek God and meditate on His Word. When I was compiling my list of who not to date, it should have included anyone who does not know God. That is the first red flag for a single, Christian woman or man. We must stop thinking that if we can get someone to fall in love with us, we can make them fall in love with God. We cannot change the hearts of any other person and what usually happens is that the person draws our focus away from God.
God does not want us to be in relationships with bad people. Nor does He want us, in an effort to get them before they get us, to be bad people. He gives us the opportunity to screen those with whom we come in contact by giving us His Word, His wisdom and the Holy Spirit. Our part is to read, understand and listen.
Lord, thank You for Your Wisdom.
Thank You for the opportunity to learn what is best for me.
Please forgive me for all of the time that I do not listen to Your warnings.
Please show me anyone in my life who does not belong.
In Jesus’ Name
*Scripture quotations are from the New International Version ©1984, unless otherwise indicated.