Week Forty Eight
Do Not Settle
1 John 3:21-22
Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive from him anything we ask, because we keep his commands and do what pleases Him.
Quote from Pray While You’re Prey:
“…women have been so indoctrinated with the ideas that we need to get married and that a single woman is a second-class citizen that we may not realize that being a married woman is way too high on our priority list. As a result, we may make compromises during our hunt that we wouldn’t normally make, all for the sake of not being alone.”
About three months ago, I received a call from the car dealership where I leased my vehicle. They said that they wanted my car back early. They said that they needed used cars like mine that were well taken care of and would make sure that I drove off in a newer car at an affordable price. I’m not sure how many of you have been to a car lot, but there is a process that they take you through. I have not really had to deal with that process because I have leased or purchased cars from a family friend since I got me very first vehicle. That family friend moved on to the a more expensive car dealership and I am not ready to upgrade with him quite yet, so I decided to go into the dealership to hear what they had to offer.
At the time, my lease was not up for another seven months, so I had time to decide what I wanted to do at the end of my lease. For anyone who is not familiar with leasing a car, at the end of the lease, you can keep the car and continue to pay for it, turn it in to the dealership, or trade it in for another vehicle. My car had a little more damage than my previously leased cars, so I was merely interested to know if I would have to keep it or if the dealership would take it back.
I went into the dealership, I met a salesman who seemed nice enough. I explained why I was there, that I did not have much time, that I just wanted to explore my options and that it was okay if I did not get a new car because I still have seven months to decide what to do. Well, they took my keys to “check out my car,” took me on a test drive, and then started this very long process of trying to harass me into settling for a new car with a huge increase in payment. I stood up, demanded to have my car keys, and left.
This week, I got a call from the same dealership, with the same speech. I told the person on the phone that it was my intention to NEVER visit that dealership again because they treated me as if I was an idiot and held me hostage. The salesman begged me to give them another chance. So I did. I went in, I confidently told the salesman what price range would make me leave with a new car; not one penny over it. I let him know that I was not in the mood for any games or to be held hostage. Though the paperwork process seemed to take a really long time, my old car was taken back by the dealership and I drove off in a new car with the payment that I asked for and a care package at no extra cost.
If I had compromised a few months ago, I would have regretted it. There was a part of me that wanted to settle just so that I did not have to deal with the decision of what to do with my car. Nevertheless, I stuck to my guns, and this time around, I demanded respect and integrity. I got what I desired and then some.
For the sake of not feeling alone or not feeling like a failure, how many times do we settle? How many times do we forget that our God is greater than our circumstances and if we will wait on Him, He will fulfill our every need? How many times do we ask Him to bless us, but then ignore His commands or live a life that is not pleasing to Him? This is not a story about God blessing me with a car because I am some perfect Christian. Yes, He gets all honor and praise for my new car. Still, I know that nothing I did or ever will do merits His favor and saving grace. Yet, God is willing to allow us to not have to compromise for less than we deserve when we are confident in Him and live according to His Word. So, trust God only and do not settle.
Thank You, God for being a God that hears my prayers
and answers them with the best answer at the right time.
Please forgive me for not believing that You will keep
Your promises and settling for things of this world.
Lord, please help me to hold out
until my change comes.
In Jesus’ Name,
*Scripture quotations are from the New International Version ©1984, unless otherwise indicated.