1 Peter 3:13-14
Who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good? But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed.
Quote from Pray While You’re Prey:
“I cannot stress enough that if you follow God’s will, He will bless you.”
Have you gotten them? I have. The looks that scream, “I wonder what is wrong with her,” or, “She must have some major issue.” Or, have you gotten the whispers behind your back that are trying to figure out why you are still single, or, why you are single with no children? Worse yet, has someone come up to your face and told you why you are still single, or, that at the rate you are going, you will never have children of your own.
It’s amazing to me what people think is their business. And, often, they truly believe they are doing you a favor. They feel like you are not painfully aware of your singleness, so they should help you figure out your situation. The proverbial “they” says things like, “Stop being so uptight and picky, girl,” or, “Don’t you think it’s time for you to settle down, man.” “They” say these things when, ultimately, the timing and length of your single season as a Christian is between you and the God who made you. No one else gets a say.
What “they” fail to realize, other than it is none of their cotton-picking business, is that maybe, just maybe, you are being obedient. I cannot speak for everyone who is single; however, for those of us who are trying to live in God’s will for our lives, we should be eager to do this single thing God’s way. God promises us so many times and in so many ways that if we are obedient to Him, we are still blessed.
Imagine that you compromise and settle for someone who does not match the one for whom you have prayed to God. Exactly how blessed, joyful, and peaceful do you feel that relationship will be? How long do you think it will last? Sure, it might temporarily ease the pain and suffering of loneliness, but at what cost? If a man settles down to soon, before he is ready to love his wife as Christ loved the church, how will that relationship fare? I can tell you from experience that it does not end well in many cases.
So, no matter what anyone in this world says, if you are living in your single season in a way that is pleasing to God, no one can harm you. Do not let the pressures of this world make you feel like there is something wrong with you because you do not have a mate or children. God makes everything beautiful in His timing. One day, the times of suffering will be a distant memory. In the meantime, if someone has the nerve to point out that you are “still single,” kindly remind that person that you are also, “still blessed!”
Thank You, God for the comfort in knowing
that there is a blessing in obedience.
Please forgive me for allowing others to
infiltrate my beliefs about where You have me in this
season of my life.
Lord, please help me to appreciate all of the blessings
and mercies that you give me daily as I follow Your will.
In Jesus’ Name,
*Scripture quotations are from the New International Version ©1984, unless otherwise indicated.