A Time of Blessing or a Time of Testing?
He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.
Quote from Pray While You’re Prey:
“I want other [singles] to learn that if they will just talk to You, everything will be alright in Your time.”
We do not spend our entire life on top of the mountain. There will always be peaks and valleys to life. The reassuring fact for Christian singles is that every situation in our lives is used to for something beautiful. Every time of trial and testing can lead to a time of beauty and blessing.
My pastor once said to me, “Life has ebbs and flows and you can begin to enjoy it as soon as you learn to ride the waves.” In order to have peace in our lives, we have to understand that God has a purpose in every season. This season of singleness is not the result of God loving you any less than He loves those whom He has allowed to get married. Singleness can be seen as a time of blessing or a time of testing. The results of this time when we belong to God and God alone will be beautiful.
Being single gives us the opportunity to get to know ourselves and our God more intimately. It is a blessing that allows us to pursue dreams that may not be possible if we had the concerns that come along with having a family. During my time of singleness, I have had the opportunity to see different places in the world. I studied abroad and visited London, Paris, Madrid, and Milan. I have discovered places that I love to visit here in the U.S., like Providence, Rhode Island and Savannah, Georgia. I am not saying that it would not have happened if I had a family. But, there was beauty in being free to discover what the world has to offer.
Being single gives God the opportunity to uncover the places in our lives that we still need to work on before we are in a committed relationship. Singleness is a place where God can test our commitment to Him. He can find out if our focus on Him is because He is the center of our joy or if it is because we have not other options. I have failed this test several times. God allows someone in my life as a romantic interest and before I know it, I have forgotten about all of the promises I made to Him. The fantastic thing about God as a teacher is that He allows retakes on His tests and they are always open book. There is beauty in fixing our flaws before we enter into a relationship with another person.
No matter whether we see singleness as a time of blessing or a time of testing or both, God makes it beautiful. If we take a moment to stop complaining or lusting after things that are not meant for us in this season, we can become content with the plan that God has for us right now. He hears your thoughts and prayers and He knows the desires of your heart. God wants you to experience the most beautiful version of your dreams that is possible, and He will make it so in His time.
Thank You, God for being in control of time
and every season of my life.
Please forgive me for being impatient as You make
everything in my life beautiful.
Lord, please help me to humbly accept
everything You are trying to show me in this season.
In Jesus’ Name,
*Scripture quotations are from the New International Version ©1984, unless otherwise indicated.